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Written by kandi 20. Oct 2007 01:15 AM

There is now only 7 days untill my parents facility closes. The organisation which has taken over the bed liscence until closure have been, what I thought, kind and understanding.
At work I received a harrassing call asking if I was going to accept a placement for them at a facility which is not appropriate.
Their opinion now is that I should accept a place where they can be together, even though they can't share a room, will be in share rooms with four beds and no room for any memorabilia. The place is dementia specific which is fine. My mother especially is at that tender stage of alzheimers.She is still very social, has difficulty and is unsteady on her feet, and is absolutely devoted to my father , as is my father to her. I am trying to find a facility to prolong their love and relationship as long as possible, before the horrid disease takes another chapter of my mother and fathers life and memory which will impact on their relationship. The closure has stressed them enough...that is why placing them together where they can share a room is critical. Anything else will deteriorate their condition.

Anyway.....I will stand their ground, for their human rights to be together.

I am amazed at the complete lack of care for other humans that the owner of their facility has demonstrated. to give them one months notice and no support........

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Comments from the community:

Hi Kandi

I want to commend your courage and determination to fight for the rights of your parents. I think it is disgusting that these dear people can be forced from their home with no consideration to the impact that this will have on these fragile souls.
You hope when you have to make necessary choices to place your loved ones in the care of others more experienced, that they themselves are caring loving people and the workers are but unfortunately for the bosses it is just business. I feel, to the ones with the control of these residences, the people are no different to products in a shop nearing their use by day. Move them at whatever cost just so they can have the result they need.
Go Kandi, show your viking strength and fight these inconsiderate people. Your parents deserve to be together forever and no one should be able to dictate otherwise.
My prayers are with you during this difficult time and I am continually sending you big front row forward bear hugs.

Written by leslie, 20. Oct 2007 03:37 AM

Oh Kandi, I can't believe this nightmare no closer to resolution for you. I feel for you so much and am wishing all the strength and courage that you need to stand up to these horribly inconsiderate people who are forcing your parents out of their home.

You are absolutely right to fight for your parents and their right to stay together. They shouldn't be able to force them out until you have found a place that meets their requirements. They would be very proud of you.

I couldn't imagine having having to go through the placement process all over again.

I think of you often and sincerely hope they will be settled soon in a lovely facility.

Big hug from me .

Written by Carey, 21. Oct 2007 09:35 PM