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Written by kandi 12. Oct 2007 03:13 AM

Well......it is two weeks since the news of the closure of my parents aged care facility. Eight residents have died of grief and fear, six staff have resigned. No counselling has been organised for staff or residents.
Everything is treated as a business.....the business of displacing vulnerable human beings.
For the past two weeks, every day has been spent looking for a new facility, visiting and making calls. I have not coped well over the past two days. Have been feeling very depressed, guilty and overwhelmed. Feeling responsible for my parents predicament. Dealing with ongoing grief with both parents suffering from dementia has been enough. This adds another very unsavoury layer.

The assistance promised is not the assistance required.

For a person who always remains positive......this experience has worn me down.

I look forward to the day when my diary entry is focused on some good news.

Thanks for reading........

Kandi

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Comments from the community:

Kandi, what you are going through sounds like a real nightmare. The first placement is bad enough with it's burden of guilt etc but having then to move them seems so hard. What a heartless organisation.

Is there no help from social workers, ACAT etc to cut down some of the leg work you yourself have to do?

I am just appalled by what is happening to you and to all associated with the placement, residents and relatives alike, as will every carer that reads this be. I am so sorry it is bringing up so many bad memories for you. Keep courage and remember the saying: "this too will pass".

(((Hugs))) from Sue.

Written by suew, 12. Oct 2007 09:12 AM

Hi Kandi, I've been wondering how you were. I'm so sorry to hear of this horendous thing you are going through. I can't believe a group of people who are meant to care for the elderly are treating them and their families so dreadfully. I'm horrified this can happen.

It will be very hard for all concerned to move your parents to another facility but the care they will receieve at a new place can only be better than where they are now. If your parents are together I'm sure they'll draw on each other for strength and the move might not be so bad for them.

We make the heart renching decision to place our loved ones into care and try and deal with our rollercoaster of emotions as a result of this decision, and hope we never feel this low again.

But on the positive side, you've done it before and survived, perhaps a little scarred, you can do it again. We are a warrior woman and we will drag some strength from somewhere, but allow yourself some down
time if you need it.

I hope you find a lovely place for mum and dad soon.

Take care. I look forward to your next diary entry.

From Carey

Written by Carey, 12. Oct 2007 12:27 PM

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