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Written by suew 18. Feb 2008 03:30 PM

It has been a fairly hectic month so far. More things to do as it is back to our regular routine. The meeting season has started and I have been asked to go on committees in some of the organisations we belong to but have refused. I guess to look at Ray sitting in his wheelchair with his face all smiley and his hair combed it is hard to realise how much time it takes me to keep him that way! So people think I am retired and have nothing to do so might I like to take on a few little voluntary jobs?

We have not had weather that has been too hot or humid on the east coast this year so we have avoided having that washed out feeling that that kind of wweather brings but I think after a while I find the long days tiring anyway. I seem to be up early and late to bed most days. And I trot around all day filling my time with the small insignificant jobs that keep the house tidy, the cupboards full and clothes in our wardrobes. Then there is the gardening, the shopping etc. The minutae of the everyday just fritters away all my time.

Ray has suddenly slowed down again, our doctor seems to think he is anaemic so has added an iron tablet to his other pills. He is to take it with "hand squeezed" orange juice...another job for me. He has been looking pale too so I hope once the iron builds up again he will be quicker at least. Saturday it took him 25 minutes to eat a slice of toast! I know that was partly because I didn't say "hurry up and eat your toast...we have to go..." as I usually do. Maybe I should just make a recording of all the things I say to get him going and play it on a continuous loop?

There haven't been people on at the same time as I have been on chat here lately, I have done some chatting on Strokenet though so I still fulfill the need to exchange ideas etc. A lot of my friends are away or busy with life so harder to catch on the phone. It is easy to feel lonely if I let myself.

Sometimes it seems as if life has no great landmarks and each week is much the same as the last. I guess that is summer and I need to relax and enjoy it before it is gone. The big things in life, the dramas, the traumas will come back soon enough.

(the slows are Ray, the quick is me running around him as I work...lol)

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